Posts in Kindermusik Cleveland
3 Steps to Saying Goodbye to "Good Job"

Last week, we explored Why Saying “Good Job” Isn’t So Good.

I thought we should follow this up and help you with this a little bit more.

We talked about why saying good job is not always so good because it really puts a judgment statement to your child and when you say good job, your child is thinking, “Well, what's so good? What did I do? What's so good?”

And then if you don't say good job, they're wondering, “Am I good?” “Why didn't you say good job to me?”

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Why Saying "Good Job" Isn't So Good

Let me give you an example.

First of all, in our Kindermusik classes, very often we hear, "Good job," a lot.

Children put instruments away. "Good job. You did it. Yay."

What's happening is, is that we are actually giving a judgment statement.

"Good. Good job. Good job."

But let me ask you this.

Which do you think is more meaningful to your child?

"Good job," or ….

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Why It's Good To Let Your Child "Fail"

That's a hard word to hear, fail! But allowing your child to fail is a very important step in their growth and development.

I noticed in some of our classes when we are exploring something with our children, as parents we want to help them through it. But by doing that we're helping them too much and we're doing it for them.

For example, if we asked the children to paint a rainbow, the parents say:

“Oh no, the rainbow arches just like this, and then this color goes next. Just like this. See, there's your rainbow.”

But in a child's eyes, what's the matter if the rainbow is just a bunch of blotches or a bunch of splatters?

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What Is The Martha Stewart Effect and How Does It Affect Your Lives?

Our first subject for this Thrive Live is what is the Martha Stewart effect and how does it affect you?

This is something I've thought about for a long time because in our Kindermusik classrooms, I know that parents are always comparing their children to other children.

"Oh your child's walking? Mine's not walking.”

“Your child is eating solid foods? Mines not eating solid foods.”

“Your child's potty training? Mines not potty training yet.”

“Oh my goodness, I must be behind or I must be doing something wrong."

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