Posts in Parenting
What Happens When You Count To 12

I have a question for you. What happens when you count to 12? Let's count.

That may seem like a long time when you're with a toddler because it takes a toddler 12 times longer to process a piece of information than it takes for you to process it.

If you process something instantaneously within one second, it takes your toddler 12 seconds to process that information.

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Why Saying "No" Might Be A No-No

I want you to think about putting yourself inside your child's brain.

We often ask you to do that, and this is another great example of doing that again.

Let's say we just opened the doors to our Kindermusik classroom, and there are some musical instruments on the floor in the middle of the room.

Your child runs in joyfully and picks up an instrument and starts playing, and then goes to another child and tries to take the instrument out of that child's hand.

You see that happening and you say, "No!"

Well, now, what's happened inside your child's brain?

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Savor the Moment To Have a Teaching Moment

A mom recently asked me about what should she do when she has promised her daughter she's going to go somewhere, like let's say we have plans to go to the library today and her daughter starts acting up and behaving in ways that the mom was not thrilled about.

And she said “Okay, well then we're not going to go to the library.”

The mom asked, is that the right thing to do?

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3 Steps to Saying Goodbye to "Good Job"

Last week, we explored Why Saying “Good Job” Isn’t So Good.

I thought we should follow this up and help you with this a little bit more.

We talked about why saying good job is not always so good because it really puts a judgment statement to your child and when you say good job, your child is thinking, “Well, what's so good? What did I do? What's so good?”

And then if you don't say good job, they're wondering, “Am I good?” “Why didn't you say good job to me?”

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Why Saying "Good Job" Isn't So Good

Let me give you an example.

First of all, in our Kindermusik classes, very often we hear, "Good job," a lot.

Children put instruments away. "Good job. You did it. Yay."

What's happening is, is that we are actually giving a judgment statement.

"Good. Good job. Good job."

But let me ask you this.

Which do you think is more meaningful to your child?

"Good job," or ….

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Why It's Good To Let Your Child "Fail"

That's a hard word to hear, fail! But allowing your child to fail is a very important step in their growth and development.

I noticed in some of our classes when we are exploring something with our children, as parents we want to help them through it. But by doing that we're helping them too much and we're doing it for them.

For example, if we asked the children to paint a rainbow, the parents say:

“Oh no, the rainbow arches just like this, and then this color goes next. Just like this. See, there's your rainbow.”

But in a child's eyes, what's the matter if the rainbow is just a bunch of blotches or a bunch of splatters?

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How To Prepare Your Child For The Arrival Of A Younger Sibling

Today we're going to answer Heather Young's question, "How to prepare my son for the arrival of our new baby, and his new baby brother."

Heather is due next month, so she's wondering what she can do to help her older child prepare for the arrival of a younger sibling.

First thing is - it's hard not to worry.

I know you're always worrying about that first born, or that older child, and how they're going to react, but I would like you to try to reframe what you think your child is thinking.

What's in his little brain? How is he perceiving things?

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