Where Is Your Child's Safe Place?

Where do you think their safe place is and let's talk about what I mean by that.

This came to my mind because dancers and music lesson kids are back at Thrive this week to start their School Year classes.

There is something I noticed as students came in our doors this week. Some of them haven't been here in several weeks or even some a few months and they came in with smiles and open arms.

Lots of hugs, waving, saying “Hello, Hi Ms. Cathy, Hi Ms. Marilyn, Hi Ms. Dani, Hi Mr. Kevin.”

And I could tell that they just felt very safe here, very comfortable, and welcomed. And it was very comforting to see that as they returned back here.

I know that many kids feel very comfortable and they really feel at home here. That warms our hearts because that's one of our missions, to make sure that your child feels like this is a home away from home.

Some of the conversations I've been having with parents this week are about their children being in new classrooms with new teachers and new classmates at school.

Some kids are having a bit of a challenge adjusting to all the newness and their new schedule.

So what's happening is our returning students that have been here last year, last spring, last summer, last fall, even though they have a lot of newness and change at school and in their lives, they're coming in here and they think:

“I know it here. I know what’s here for me. I know what to expect. I feel comfortable here. I have familiar surroundings.”

They know their teachers, they know us, they feel very connected here.

At Thrive, we really strive to help kids, children, students, parents feel safe and connected enough to learn.

Where is your child's safe place?

What do I mean by feeling safe and connected enough to learn?

Dr. Becky Bailey who wrote Conscious Discipline, one of our favorites and one of the methods that we follow a lot here at Thrive, explains that there are actually three brain states or internal states.

Three Brain States.

If you look at a brain model, the brainstem is the survival mode and your child is thinking, “Am I safe?”

The inside is the emotional part of the brain and they're asking, “Am I loved?”

And then the prefrontal Cortex, the executive state, they’re thinking “What can I learn?”

In the executive state your child feels safe and connected. This is the optimum state for their brain to be in order to learn.

Now they are feeling safe and connected enough so they can learn.

That's something that's very, very important to us. We're passionate about it. We strive everyday to bring that to you and your children.

I want to know about your child’s safe place? Where do they feel safe? Where do they feel connected and loved so that they are open up to learning?

As many of you know, Kevin and I have two children, a son and daughter.

We were thinking back on our daughter’s experience at college. She had a safe place at college and that was her choir, the university choir that she sang with.

That was her family, that was her home away from home. That was her safe place.

She felt safe there. She felt tremendous connection, lots of loving connection from the other choir members. And it just allowed her to open up.

It allowed her to open up so that she felt that she could learn.

It was important to me to know that my daughter felt very safe and connected. And it's important to us here at Thrive that you and your children feel safe and connected so that they can open up for learning.

It's nice to have a place you know, a place you're comfortable with, a place that you walk in and you know what to expect.

Where does your child feel connected? Where are they eager to learn? Let us know in the comment box below. Let's discuss.

Let's see what happens when your child is composed and calm and open for learning as opposed to being in that emotional state after school where they're whiny and cranky and they're saying things you don't want to hear. They're not in a learning state.

What we do here at Thrive is we give you enough tips to get them up to the executive state so their brain is ready to learn.